Why Life By The Book?

Why do I believe and advocate that Life…by the book is best?

While this is not a religious site (I am NOT a religious person by MY definition, though I AM a follower of Christ) it is a site that encompasses all that I believe is needed to make a person a solid, strong, empowered person who knows who they were created to BE in order to DO what they were created to DO in this life.

So you WILL find quotes, images, articles et al here that does deal with God & The Bible. Since I believe it is His word I therefore find it very profitable for teaching, learning and making our lives better.

I mean, who better to get advice from than the manufacturer or the owner’s manual?

That is NOT open to debate or discussion for me since I dealt with all of that years ago and since am absolutely positive that I am right and naturally it is my hope that you will discover the same for yourself. If not, we can still be friends and you can still learn a lot from some of the things you will find here.

However, this IS also not a site where you will find hatred or meanness. I try very hard (and fail quite often since I DO love sarcasm) to follow Christ’s commandment
to walk in Love.

But the main reason you will (and should) find Biblical posts, quotes, texts etc on here is because when you believe something strongly, you own it and it becomes a natural part of who you ARE. It empowers your every process.

If someone truly has the keys to success in Life... why not share them? Click To Tweet

If someone truly has the keys to success in Life… why not share them?

So, IF I truly DO believe that God’s Word has the keys for Success in Life then I would be a snarky, selfish piece of Boomer Swag to not share that information with anyone who wanted or felt they needed to hear it

…and I may be a LOT Of things, but selfish is not one of them. ūü§£


. Regardless of what you call it,
and for better or worse,
absolutely rules your life.

It determines the way you see every person
you meet and every action and event that happens

We are wise, when we give our mindset an
on going evaluation to assess whether it
is offering us a way of thinking
and viewing of the world that can
makes us happy and healthy along with
giving our self a decent shot at success

or if it is a negative leaning, twisted,
sad mindset that sets us up
to fail or even worse.. keeps us from even trying.

Which mindset do you have?

It’s heat awareness day

Beware & Prepare U+1f623

Not because it is so hot
(although depending on where
you live it very well may be)

But because it is about that time
of year when the temperatures begin
to rise and that can be a Real Pain
if you haven’t given some thought to
how you plan to “keep cool”

So…just Beware & Be Aware
it’s gonna start getting HOT!

The Power of #PAUSE

Social Media Is NOT Always Nicely Social


 Social Media is NOT always nice or social.

There is probably no one left on the planet
who hasn’t gone to a post on a social media site
and either been the recipient of a hate filled
comment or seen someone who has.

There's probably no one on the planet who hasn't felt the sting of a #socialmedia troll Click To Tweet

Sometimes, the rude comments are the result of
our making a less than kind (why would we do that?)
comment, but not always.

Sometimes, they are the result of trolls.


In internet slang, a troll  is a person who purposely
sows discord on the Internet sites by starting
arguments or upsetting people, by posting inflammatory,
extraneous, or off-topic comments in an online community
(such as a forum, chat room, social site or blog)
with the intent of provoking readers into an emotional
response or of otherwise disrupting normal, on-topic
discussion, usually¬†for the troll’s amusement.

Other times the rude comments are from someone we
would consider a “normal, everyday person” who,
if we met them at a friend’s BBQ or at a little league game,
we might even consider them to be very kind & friendly.

Rude comments suck and are not what a decent, human being
would or should make to someone, but right now I want
to talk about Page Owners or Site Owners who are assholes.

Dear Page Owner,
You need to drop the attitude. It’s not funny,
doesn’t make you sound smart, and it puts you in
the same category as an everyday asshole troll.

I’m talking about the “It’s MY Page and I’ll post
what I want, so go eff yourself” attitude that so
many Facebook page owners adopt, especially
the more successful pages and especially when
their readers (fans) take issue with something they post.

So, they took issue with something you posted.

Why would you treat someone who has “liked and
followed you” and maybe even shared your stuff
with their friends, to such a rude, mean response?

Yes, it IS your page-that’s a fact. Diarrhea is also a FACT,
but no one wants to have it flung at their face.

I’m not talking about the page that is obviously
created to create controversy or strong emotions
from everyone who goes there.

You get what you get if you are on a controversial
page that goes against your beliefs, values or ideals.

Don’t like what they say. Don’t go there.

I’m talking about the Imposter Page, or “The Sneak” Page.

You know the ones.

The pages that masquerade as some sweet, funny or useful
page… like a business page offering business advice or tips,

or positive, inspirational, humorous, pages offering beautiful
images and warm fuzzies for everyone, only to suddenly
SLAM BAM you when you least expect it with a biased
political post or some other controversial comment,

and when someone is offended or complains with
a “Hey, why the political post? This is not a
political page” or “Can we just stick to the
warm fuzzies” they are¬†basically given the
ole’ asshole blowoff,
“Hey it’s MY page and I’ll post what I want. Don’t like it. Leave.”

Yes, it may be your page and
Yes, you CAN post what you want, but when you
created a page, put it on a sharing platform,
AND PRETENDED to be about something that
does NOT have controversial stressful content,
and asked others to like it and follow you,
and they DID like and follow you based on

you have a responsibility to those “fans”
to not be RUDE and blow them off if they
take exception to something you post
that is unexpected or controversial since
that would be out of context for your page.

No one is asking you to compromise YOUR values
or your page, but a kind HUMANE answer along
the lines of , “I’m sorry you didn’t like my post,
but I created this page so I CAN post my thoughts
or ideals along with my pretty stuff.

I know that I may have surprised you with
my political comment, but I DO post things
like that¬†occasionally and if you don’t
want to see those types of posts,
you may need to unfollow the page.

I do wish you well, and thank you for your past support”

A simple and kind response.

And then don’t follow it up with snide, rude,
mean spirited comments or images on your feed
after they leave,  creating snickers and guffaws from the
other members who are trying to suck up or act “cool”
along with the bully.

Some might say, “I tell them on my page what it is about”

That may be true… and is a great idea, but posting that your
page can have any type of post or even a disclaimer on the page
is not really enough, since FB has the newsfeed set up to allow
seeing, liking, and sharing of posts as well as liking and
following a page without ever going to the page,

so a simple “cut and paste” humane response is the easiest,
kindest (no big deal) thing to do and that way, no one who
used to be doing YOU a favor feels bullied,
blown off, cheated or hurt.

Yes, they DID do you a favor. A huge one as far
as page growth on FB goes.

If Facebook has you showing up in the newsfeed
of ANY of your fans, then ALL of your fans put you there.
Unless you paid for growth ads.

That is how Facebook works. So you DO owe them. They
have done you a huge favor- especially if you are not
paying to play

Sadly, we all come across this type of behavior
more often than is expected,  at least based on the
premise that most folks are genuinely nice.

However, today I was just a bit shocked to see
a page that I considered to be on the “classier side”
do it.

The page posted a controversial political post
that upset some of their fans who stand on the
other side of the political aisle and those fans
complained and unfollowed the page.

This was a page of beautifully created, inspirational and sometimes humorous images, so the political post was totally out of context
for the page’s voice, and the post took some of the fans by surprise.

The page then basically gave the ole stand by “blow off” comment,
complete with hateful goodbye, followed
by new images of rude, snide remarks, insulting
the fans who were upset enough to unfollow the page,
while everyone else on the page was snickering
like “mean girls” back in middle school.

I was a fan of the page because I admired
the page owner for her creativity and talent
…until now.

Today, I was appalled at her mean, childish behavior
(especially since many of her posts are about not being mean,
accepting others as they are, freedom of thought and expression,
tolerance, blah blah blah)

Anyway, I am not telling her or anyone how to run their page.

I am, however, suggesting that her behavior is
less than stellar for one who purports to believe
as she does and while she does have the right
(everyone screams about their rights, usually
when they are being asshats) to behave in any way
she wants, she does need to realize that the
characteristics that she so loudly disdains
as vulgar and unacceptable are the very characteristics
she displays with her mean, sarcastic, self important attitude.

I guess we are ALL hypocrites about something
…go figure.

Anyway, for those page owners who grow to have mega followers,
I know it is easy to get a bit swollen in the ego, but
no one likes a self centered jerk

…well, except maybe the other¬†“mean girls” on your page.

Go forth and Be the Change you want to see.



Our future is
going to be a lot different
than we think …or don’think

We are going to
have quite a loss in the world
with our children now growing
up without the need to use
imagination and creativity
in their daily life

The lack of personal silence
for reflecting and determining
what we believe is also going
to be sorely missed

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Can I Pick Your Brain?


Can I pick your brain?

“I would just love to pick your brain over a cup of coffee.”

“Hey, would you mind doing me a huge favor and look over my project?
My ebook? My idea? My business?

“Hey would you mind handing me 200 bucks out of your pocket?” or
“Hey, I would love to extract all the expertise from your brain in
exchange for a $3 cup of coffee. Will you let me?”

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And of course, when you turn down these most lucrative requests or
ignore the email, the comments ¬†quickly become “that arrogant, `thinks she’s
too good for anyone`, jerk” and let’s not forget, ¬†the old faithful, “What a bitch!”

Do you think you’re the first person to come up with this great idea?

Most likely, they are getting tons of emails/requests to do this and
even if they accepted a minimal 4-6 a week, that’s a lost day in their life,
the life of their family and their bank account.

Why would ANYONE expect ANYONE to do that?

When you ask someone to give you a discount or worse, do something
for you for free or as a favor, you are telling them that you don’t believe
their time is of any value -at least not to you.

You are saying,¬†“I value ME more than I value YOU or your time,
so please do this for ME for free.”

When you ask someone for a freebie, you are stating that
their time, energy or product has a value of zero. Actually,
you are asking them to hand you money.

IF their product is worth 200 bucks, and you asked for a 50% discount
Рyou just asked them to hand you 100 bucks.

If they get 150 bucks an hour (whether you think they deserve it or not
is immaterial) and you ask to pick their brain for an hour, you’ve just
asked them to hand you 150 bucks.

This might be OK if you are old friends or close family, BUT most of the
time it’s¬†not a friend or family member, it’s a stranger, and it’s NOT¬†OK.

It is rude and insulting.

So before you ask someone to give you a handout,
ask yourself from which angle you’re coming from-
the close friend, family member OR the rude insulting stranger.

Yep, I said it.  Someone needed to. So just STOP it!

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