. Regardless of what you call it,
and for better or worse,
absolutely rules your life.

It determines the way you see every person
you meet and every action and event that happens

We are wise, when we give our mindset an
on going evaluation to assess whether it
is offering us a way of thinking
and viewing of the world that can
makes us happy and healthy along with
giving our self a decent shot at success

or if it is a negative leaning, twisted,
sad mindset that sets us up
to fail or even worse.. keeps us from even trying.

Which mindset do you have?

It’s heat awareness day

Beware & Prepare U+1f623

Not because it is so hot
(although depending on where
you live it very well may be)

But because it is about that time
of year when the temperatures begin
to rise and that can be a Real Pain
if you haven’t given some thought to
how you plan to “keep cool”

So…just Beware & Be Aware
it’s gonna start getting HOT!

The Power of #PAUSE

Social Media Is NOT Always Nicely Social


 Social Media is NOT always nice or social.

There is probably no one left on the planet
who hasn’t gone to a post on a social media site
and either been the recipient of a hate filled
comment or seen someone who has.

There's probably no one on the planet who hasn't felt the sting of a #socialmedia troll Click To Tweet

Sometimes, the rude comments are the result of
our making a less than kind (why would we do that?)
comment, but not always.

Sometimes, they are the result of trolls.


In internet slang, a troll  is a person who purposely
sows discord on the Internet sites by starting
arguments or upsetting people, by posting inflammatory,
extraneous, or off-topic comments in an online community
(such as a forum, chat room, social site or blog)
with the intent of provoking readers into an emotional
response or of otherwise disrupting normal, on-topic
discussion, usually for the troll’s amusement.

Other times the rude comments are from someone we
would consider a “normal, everyday person” who,
if we met them at a friend’s BBQ or at a little league game,
we might even consider them to be very kind & friendly.

Rude comments suck and are not what a decent, human being
would or should make to someone, but right now I want
to talk about Page Owners or Site Owners who are assholes.

Dear Page Owner,
You need to drop the attitude. It’s not funny,
doesn’t make you sound smart, and it puts you in
the same category as an everyday asshole troll.

I’m talking about the “It’s MY Page and I’ll post
what I want, so go eff yourself” attitude that so
many Facebook page owners adopt, especially
the more successful pages and especially when
their readers (fans) take issue with something they post.

So, they took issue with something you posted.

Why would you treat someone who has “liked and
followed you” and maybe even shared your stuff
with their friends, to such a rude, mean response?

Yes, it IS your page-that’s a fact. Diarrhea is also a FACT,
but no one wants to have it flung at their face.

I’m not talking about the page that is obviously
created to create controversy or strong emotions
from everyone who goes there.

You get what you get if you are on a controversial
page that goes against your beliefs, values or ideals.

Don’t like what they say. Don’t go there.

I’m talking about the Imposter Page, or “The Sneak” Page.

You know the ones.

The pages that masquerade as some sweet, funny or useful
page… like a business page offering business advice or tips,

or positive, inspirational, humorous, pages offering beautiful
images and warm fuzzies for everyone, only to suddenly
SLAM BAM you when you least expect it with a biased
political post or some other controversial comment,

and when someone is offended or complains with
a “Hey, why the political post? This is not a
political page” or “Can we just stick to the
warm fuzzies” they are basically given the
ole’ asshole blowoff,
“Hey it’s MY page and I’ll post what I want. Don’t like it. Leave.”

Yes, it may be your page and
Yes, you CAN post what you want, but when you
created a page, put it on a sharing platform,
AND PRETENDED to be about something that
does NOT have controversial stressful content,
and asked others to like it and follow you,
and they DID like and follow you based on

you have a responsibility to those “fans”
to not be RUDE and blow them off if they
take exception to something you post
that is unexpected or controversial since
that would be out of context for your page.

No one is asking you to compromise YOUR values
or your page, but a kind HUMANE answer along
the lines of , “I’m sorry you didn’t like my post,
but I created this page so I CAN post my thoughts
or ideals along with my pretty stuff.

I know that I may have surprised you with
my political comment, but I DO post things
like that occasionally and if you don’t
want to see those types of posts,
you may need to unfollow the page.

I do wish you well, and thank you for your past support”

A simple and kind response.

And then don’t follow it up with snide, rude,
mean spirited comments or images on your feed
after they leave,  creating snickers and guffaws from the
other members who are trying to suck up or act “cool”
along with the bully.

Some might say, “I tell them on my page what it is about”

That may be true… and is a great idea, but posting that your
page can have any type of post or even a disclaimer on the page
is not really enough, since FB has the newsfeed set up to allow
seeing, liking, and sharing of posts as well as liking and
following a page without ever going to the page,

so a simple “cut and paste” humane response is the easiest,
kindest (no big deal) thing to do and that way, no one who
used to be doing YOU a favor feels bullied,
blown off, cheated or hurt.

Yes, they DID do you a favor. A huge one as far
as page growth on FB goes.

If Facebook has you showing up in the newsfeed
of ANY of your fans, then ALL of your fans put you there.
Unless you paid for growth ads.

That is how Facebook works. So you DO owe them. They
have done you a huge favor- especially if you are not
paying to play

Sadly, we all come across this type of behavior
more often than is expected,  at least based on the
premise that most folks are genuinely nice.

However, today I was just a bit shocked to see
a page that I considered to be on the “classier side”
do it.

The page posted a controversial political post
that upset some of their fans who stand on the
other side of the political aisle and those fans
complained and unfollowed the page.

This was a page of beautifully created, inspirational and sometimes humorous images, so the political post was totally out of context
for the page’s voice, and the post took some of the fans by surprise.

The page then basically gave the ole stand by “blow off” comment,
complete with hateful goodbye, followed
by new images of rude, snide remarks, insulting
the fans who were upset enough to unfollow the page,
while everyone else on the page was snickering
like “mean girls” back in middle school.

I was a fan of the page because I admired
the page owner for her creativity and talent
…until now.

Today, I was appalled at her mean, childish behavior
(especially since many of her posts are about not being mean,
accepting others as they are, freedom of thought and expression,
tolerance, blah blah blah)

Anyway, I am not telling her or anyone how to run their page.

I am, however, suggesting that her behavior is
less than stellar for one who purports to believe
as she does and while she does have the right
(everyone screams about their rights, usually
when they are being asshats) to behave in any way
she wants, she does need to realize that the
characteristics that she so loudly disdains
as vulgar and unacceptable are the very characteristics
she displays with her mean, sarcastic, self important attitude.

I guess we are ALL hypocrites about something
…go figure.

Anyway, for those page owners who grow to have mega followers,
I know it is easy to get a bit swollen in the ego, but
no one likes a self centered jerk

…well, except maybe the other “mean girls” on your page.

Go forth and Be the Change you want to see.



Our future is
going to be a lot different
than we think …or don’think

We are going to
have quite a loss in the world
with our children now growing
up without the need to use
imagination and creativity
in their daily life

The lack of personal silence
for reflecting and determining
what we believe is also going
to be sorely missed

The Power of #PAUSE
#DoOver #LifeBTB

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Can I Pick Your Brain?


Can I pick your brain?

“I would just love to pick your brain over a cup of coffee.”

“Hey, would you mind doing me a huge favor and look over my project?
My ebook? My idea? My business?

“Hey would you mind handing me 200 bucks out of your pocket?” or
“Hey, I would love to extract all the expertise from your brain in
exchange for a $3 cup of coffee. Will you let me?”
I would just love to pick your brain over a cup of coffee. Click To Tweet
And of course, when you turn down these most lucrative requests or
ignore the email, the comments  quickly become “that arrogant, `thinks she’s
too good for anyone`, jerk” and let’s not forget,  the old faithful, “What a bitch!”

Do you think you’re the first person to come up with this great idea?

Most likely, they are getting tons of emails/requests to do this and
even if they accepted a minimal 4-6 a week, that’s a lost day in their life,
the life of their family and their bank account.

Why would ANYONE expect ANYONE to do that?

When you ask someone to give you a discount or worse, do something
for you for free or as a favor, you are telling them that you don’t believe
their time is of any value -at least not to you.

You are saying, “I value ME more than I value YOU or your time,
so please do this for ME for free.”

When you ask someone for a freebie, you are stating that
their time, energy or product has a value of zero. Actually,
you are asking them to hand you money.

IF their product is worth 200 bucks, and you asked for a 50% discount
– you just asked them to hand you 100 bucks.

If they get 150 bucks an hour (whether you think they deserve it or not
is immaterial) and you ask to pick their brain for an hour, you’ve just
asked them to hand you 150 bucks.

This might be OK if you are old friends or close family, BUT most of the
time it’s not a friend or family member, it’s a stranger, and it’s NOT OK.

It is rude and insulting.

So before you ask someone to give you a handout,
ask yourself from which angle you’re coming from-
the close friend, family member OR the rude insulting stranger.

Yep, I said it.  Someone needed to. So just STOP it!

Living with Purpose & Passion,

Are Parents Too Distracted by Technology?


Parents Start Your Engines. It’s almost time for your six plus month
abandonment of your family.


That’s right, according to Nielsen, the average person is way
too distracted with technology and now spends
11 hours a day ON gadgets -and 7 hours and 15 minutes
of that time is spent on TV, smart phones and computers.

That is 2,610 hours a year,
that is THOUSAND) OR 194 (15 hour) days,
OR (6.46) almost 7 months of life
that is NEVER EVER replaced.

What does that mean for your kids, your family?

It means that the average person spends almost 7 months
every year totally UNconnected from the people in their life
that need them the most or that mean the most to them.

This does not include the 8-10 hours each day that everyone
is at work or commuting- although some of the working stats
of the tech may be during the time at work.

And these stats are from 2014
… do you think it has gotten any better?

No decent person would dream of getting into a car and just
abandoning their loved ones- especially children who need constant
(daily) guidance, love and nurturing-for almost 7 months every year.

I know to some of you this sounds ridiculous and even harsh, BUT
it is not really as far off as you might think.

Do your own research

Pay attention to those around you when you go out… watch the
parents on their phones while walking through the stores, the parking lots,
sitting in restaurants or even at stop lights.

Time that used to be spent talking (even if just light-hearted & superficial)
AND PAYING ATTENTION to those in the car with them, is now spent
texting, or talking on the phone to someone.

Kids who have been at daycare all day WANT AND NEED to reconnect
with parents, and have some undivided attention, and it not only doesn’t
happen, I have seen parents yell at, insult, or just admonish with a dirty look
a child who is vying for their attention while they are on that blasted phone.

Valuable (irreplaceable) time and memories are being lost.

Irreplaceable time & memories are lost when we are #disconnected. #Family #Tech Click To Tweet

We would all benefit from being a little more focused and aware
of what we are doing.

Some of you may say that I have no idea what happens during the
other times when I do not see those people. Sorry, but as a busy,
working mom, I do know what goes one.

Racing around, running errands, getting dinner, doing laundry, cleaning
up after dinner, getting baths, and then bed.

The family, the beloved spouse, the precious kids are lost in the shuffle,
UNLESS someone makes it their business to disconnect from the tech
and make them a daily priority.

And the frustrating thing is just like the old farmer said, “The trouble
with cows is they don’t stay milked”.

Like the old farmer said, 'The trouble with cows is they don't stay milked' #family #parenting #LifeBTB Click To Tweet

The trouble with relationships is they don’t STAY fed or attended to.
You can’t give attention on the weekends, and tell yourself that they
should be fine until next weekend.

Kids are needy… and seeing to those needs is not just good parenting,
it’s also smart parenting, if you want them to grow up to NOT be needy.
They need parenting every day and spouses need our attention.

#Relationships take #time & time is not a renewable commodity. #FamilyAdvocate #LifeBTB Click To Tweet


We only have 24 hours each day and when you deduct for sleep
and those times when we must be away from the family, the
rest of the hours need to be VERY CAREFULLY prioritized and allotted.

You can read the interesting report yourself, here at Geek Wire

Take Action

While I hope I haven’t offended anyone (at least not too badly),
I am more hopeful that I got your attention.

So…rather than argue with me, defend the current trends,
make excuses, deny your guilt (if any), how about just
taking an assessment of YOUR life, being brutally honest
about your time and how you spend it, and then if you need to,
apologize to your special people BUT then take action to
reconnect and put the tech gadgets where they belong.

For the computer or smart phone, that means turned off
at least until the little ones are in bed and during the times
your spouse wants some of your sexy self
(YES, this matters too, but that is a whole different article)

… and for the TV that may be in a closet, or even the trash!


Prioritize your life. Especially if you have a family. Put them
where they belong on your list and that is NOT after your career.

NO ONE is so important that others need 24/7 access to them
unless it is a special situation.

Careers come and go, Family doesn’t (well unless you lose them
due to neglect & disconnect)

To your Best Life,


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